Ashley Madison Scams or Unhappily Married Men?

It’s no secret that men have cheating on their wives and partners for centuries. This of course led to a high divorce rate and various subculture throughout our society. Once the desperate housewives phenomenon made its way all over the TV and media, the idea of real wives looking for discreet sexual encounters started seeping through all areas of society.

There are thousands of dating sites out there, but none that cater to the discreet dating world like AshleyMadison does. With almost 7 million members and a ratio that isn’t as lopsided as you think, this affair’s dating site is growing at a rapid rate. But is this an ashley madison scam or is this only the beginning of the desperate housewives phenomenon.

When someone things of sites like this, the first thing that comes to mind is “This site has to be like 95% men”. What if that wasn’t the case? What if you had a discreet dating site which has more women looking for discreet partners than you think. Would you give it a shot?

The other issues is “are ashley madison profiles fake“? Any site can through up millions of profiles and say they are the biggest, the best, etc… but none will survive and grow if there isn’t a true active community under there.  AshleyMadison is the only service out (at this time at least) that will guarantee you an affair or your money back.  The only catch to the guarantee is the price, it will cost you $249 for this guarantee.

Sounds like a hefty price right? Well, let’s look at it this way. For $249, you will have an affair that is discreet. You virtually eliminate getting caught (fear #1) and you drastically reduce the chance of getting an STD (fear #2 by going through escorts). I’m not here to have a moral dilemma with you on the good, the bad, and the ugly for cheating. But if you are going to do it, that do it the right way. Learn more here..

So I went to the Yankees Mets game this past weekend at the new Yankees Stadium with my girlfriend. It was 90 degrees, a slight breeze, the best day to watch a game (and to get a tan!). While we were watching the game, there was a guy sitting in front of us that I swore looked like Simon Cowell, but about 30 pounds heavier.  In true Jamie fashion, I went into investigative mode (more like stalker nosey mode!)

As I have my head over his shoulder, I see he’s checking his emails, nothing too scandalous. Then he clicks on some link and is logging into his AshleyMadison.com account! I was elbowing my girlfriend to check this out. You see, on our long train ride into the Bronx, we had an issue of Maxim magazine. In it, was the two page article about AshleyMadison.com.  Our interest was on heighten alert.

So I had to know if Ashley Madison scams their users of if this is the ultimate cheaters paradise. I’ve cheated and been cheated on , so I totally get both sides of the fence here.  The crazy thing is having a market place that allows you to essentially pick your affair. In my eyes, I thought I ashley madison scams any member that decides to pay for their service.

After the 4th inning, I started chatting up the Cowell look-a-like. After some chatting, I came to learn he’s separated from his wife and took his son to the game. I of course couldn’t resist, and I mention that I saw you are a member of Ashley Madison, how is it? I thought  this guy would have turned into a ghost on me with that, but he took it in stride. Then I thought you know, it’s probably a perfect fit for someone in his situation.

I asked him if AshleyMadison was a scam, or were the people real. I chuckled since he looked at me with that frat boy I just got laid smirk on his face (you know the look, don’t lie).  He then went into telling me about the woman he met last night. Nothing sexual occurred, but he was overjoyed to have met someone that was going through something similar that he was (I think he was just trying to impress me, but whatever, I went with it).  He told me he was using the site on and off for 3 months and met about 5 women.

So the game ends, we part ways, and I take my train ride back to Jersey. Still, I keep thinking about this Ashley Madison site to see it for myself. I joined, but didn’t pay. I actually didn’t have to, I got so many IMs from signing in it was overkill. I mean, the guys varied from singles to married to sexual to normal (just like any other dating site I ever was part of).

What I found the most interesting were the conversations with the married men I had. They were honest, go figure! I mean, they had no problems telling me why their marriage / relationship wasn’t working and what they were looking for.  The total opposite of most dating sites where married men join and tell you they’re single (then to find out that his wife is a psycho texter to me, yes true story).

Ultimately at the end of the day, I think this Ashley Madison scam is true nonsense. You have some genuine guys that are going through some real issues in their relationships. Basically they are being honest about it, to everyone but their wife, but who am I to judge. I would tell any unhappily married man or woman, even any single man or woman looking for a unique relationship, to give this subculture a try.