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Wife Cheating Signs – What to Look For

There has been a lot of stories in the tabloids lately about cheating men, but studies tell us that women cheat almost as much as their male counterparts.  Behavioral sciences show a slightly different set of motivations when women cheat rather than men, yet the basic root is still a fear of intimacy and attachment.  For those that worry about the health of their relationship there are, psychologists tell us, signs.

You may be wondering: what are these wife cheating signs?

Wife cheating signs may be all around you: a new wardrobe or change in appearance, different friends that you’ve never met before, sudden business trips, etc. Many of the “signs” need to be addressed as part of an overall change in behavior, such as a drastic change in appearance or make-over.  A make-over could be due to wanting to attract new attention or just to improve self-esteem.  What is the context of the change?  Is your wife suddenly going to the gym after someone made a comment about her weight, after a landmark birthday, or because she got a new job?  Or is this change related to a new job that requires late hours?

Wife cheating signs are really no different than husband cheating signs.  It all boils down to a lack of emotional intimacy.  Studies show that humans cheat to avoid emotional intimacy with their current partner.  Emotional intimacy is the root to physical intimacy and marital longevity.  When a partner suddenly ceases to confide in you, or has no time to talk anymore that is a clear indicator that something has changed in the relationship.  When they begin to confide in others this is a warning sign of imminent danger, and direct action needs to be applied.

What are recent events—are there recent events that could have spawned a withdrawal of intimacy?  How can you reconnect before it is too late?  Take time and seek counseling if you feel that your partner is straying.  It is not enough just looking for these wife cheating signs, you must try and understand where they are coming from and what you intend to do in the event that your worst fears are confirmed.  Always remember you are not alone and there is help out there for you and your partner.

Now, your natural reaction is to have an affair yourself. Everyone will tell you that two wrongs don’t make a right. The problem is, no one and I mean no one, can tell you what is right or wrong here. When this happened to a close friend of mine, I said do what will help you get through it. It’s part of the self discovery process. In terms of finding that affair, by all means, don’t go the escort route. Ideally, you’ll want to find a woman that has gone through (or is going through) the same manner. This is the upside to Ashley Madison, there’s a percentage of the 7 million members that are going through the same thing.